Learning to Trust the Body, Plus What is “Focalizing”

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Written By Gervase Kolmos

We’ve been brainwashed to doubt our body, but it’s time to remember her innate power. Join Gervase on this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she discusses why this narrative of body disempowerment - that goes much (much) deeper than body image - recently surfaced for her on a personal level, how we can learn to trust our bodies, and how her training in focalizing has helped her and her clients reconnect to the body’s  natural intelligence and healing abilities.

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Book: The Body Keeps the Score

Nick Werber | Embodiment Coach (@nwerber) | Instagram

Jo Miller | Somatic Teacher & Mentor (@joannamiller_healing) | Instagram

What is Focalizing? — The Focalizing Institute (theinstitute.org)

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