Unpacking the Mother Wound
G is BACK from Summer break and ready to drop some đ„: Welcome to the new season of The Champagne Society podcast! On this episode, Gervase introduces us to writer, speaker, and Conscious Relationships Coach Galina Singer. Gervase and Galina expose the origins and unrealistic expectations of the âgood motherâ narrative and speak to how self-awareness propelled them forward into healing their mother wound. Keep listening to learn how to use self-awareness as your first step toward healing.
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For this weekâs podcast, I brought along a friend⊠high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all!
Watch this episode now to discover:
The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned)
The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity
The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out
The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance
How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners
A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!)
About Katarina Polonska:
Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns.
Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the pattern of over-functioning that keeps so many women stuck in perpetual stress. You'll learn why your nervous system gets locked in high alert and overdrive, even for unimportant tasks such as the laundry. And how this cycle of perpetual doing and achieving causes burnout and a never-ending sense of âpsychotic urgency.â
And to help you rewire these patterns, Gervase shares practical steps such as how to reconnect to your body, slow down and create moments of calm even in the chaos of modern life.
Watch this episode now to discover:
The biggest indicator that youâre an over-functioner and how this âpsychotic urgencyâ prevents you from being, enjoying and living life
Why your brain can't relax when itâs stuck in overfunctioning without signals from your body first (and how this creates a chicken-and-egg problem for over-functioners)
The real cost of constantly operating like a computer instead of honoring your HUMAN need for rhythm, rest and pleasure
A simple 4-step practice to interrupt the overfunctioning pattern when you feel yourself spiraling
The narcissistic-like belief many of us have that unknowingly depletes your energy (and how to contribute without sacrificing yourself)
How to create 30-second intervals throughout your day to tune into your bodyâs wisdom and gradually rewire your nervous system
Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so youâre liked? Or so you donât make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this weekâs episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to âperformâ and prioritize being liked over being authentic. Youâll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself.
Watch This Episode To Discover:
Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)
What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system
The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that youâre losing)
Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you
How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency
A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery
The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else
Want Gervaseâs personal guidance?
If youâd like to become who youâre really meant to be (instead of who they told you to be), youâre invited to join Gervaseâs upcoming Inner Knowing Mastermind. During these 8 group calls, youâll get an embodied sense of who you are, whatâs right for you, and how to choose it.
But hurry: the first call starts April 30th - and to keep them intimate, thereâs only a limited number of seats left!
Visit GervaseKolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind to reserve yours now.
The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isnât you⊠but the unrealistic expectations youâve internalized?
In this weekâs episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment.
Sheâll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
What Inner Knowing is and why itâs so important for modern women
How to start listening to the body and soulâs signals for easier, more aligned decision making
How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence
Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life
The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right
Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we âshouldâ be, how we are âsupposedâ to act and who they told us we are.
If youâd like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind.
This powerful 8-week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.
Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and âpushing throughâ of modern life.
Itâs time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.
Go here to enroll and get more details: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind
Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mind race, or feel paralyzed by indecision. You know youâre triggered, but youâre not so sure what to do next.
In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase dives into what it actually takes to move through a trigger, not just from a logical, intellectual place, but through a somatic and soul strategy that allows you to shift your nervous system and return to a state of clarity, empowerment, and ease. This is not your basic âidentifying triggersâ surface-level episode. This is about integration - learning to recognize, resource, and regulate yourself in real-time so you stop spinning in mental loops and start embodying a new way of being. Listen in as Gervase shares how to move from an activated state into a place of true self-knowing and safety, so that the next time a trigger hits, youâll know exactly how to navigate it.
If you're tired of being hijacked by your triggers and ready to move through them with ease, grace, and actual solutions, hit play now. And if youâre feeling called to go deeper, Gervaseâs Inner Knowing Mastermind is now open! Check out the link below for more info.