Unpacking the Mother Wound
G is BACK from Summer break and ready to drop some đ„: Welcome to the new season of The Champagne Society podcast! On this episode, Gervase introduces us to writer, speaker, and Conscious Relationships Coach Galina Singer. Gervase and Galina expose the origins and unrealistic expectations of the âgood motherâ narrative and speak to how self-awareness propelled them forward into healing their mother wound. Keep listening to learn how to use self-awareness as your first step toward healing.
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Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so youâre liked? Or so you donât make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this weekâs episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to âperformâ and prioritize being liked over being authentic. Youâll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself.
Watch This Episode To Discover:
Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)
What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system
The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that youâre losing)
Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you
How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency
A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery
The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else
Want Gervaseâs personal guidance?
If youâd like to become who youâre really meant to be (instead of who they told you to be), youâre invited to join Gervaseâs upcoming Inner Knowing Mastermind. During these 8 group calls, youâll get an embodied sense of who you are, whatâs right for you, and how to choose it.
But hurry: the first call starts April 30th - and to keep them intimate, thereâs only a limited number of seats left!
Visit GervaseKolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind to reserve yours now.
The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isnât you⊠but the unrealistic expectations youâve internalized?
In this weekâs episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment.
Sheâll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
What Inner Knowing is and why itâs so important for modern women
How to start listening to the body and soulâs signals for easier, more aligned decision making
How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence
Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life
The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right
Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we âshouldâ be, how we are âsupposedâ to act and who they told us we are.
If youâd like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind.
This powerful 8-week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.
Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and âpushing throughâ of modern life.
Itâs time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.
Go here to enroll and get more details: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind
Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mind race, or feel paralyzed by indecision. You know youâre triggered, but youâre not so sure what to do next.
In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase dives into what it actually takes to move through a trigger, not just from a logical, intellectual place, but through a somatic and soul strategy that allows you to shift your nervous system and return to a state of clarity, empowerment, and ease. This is not your basic âidentifying triggersâ surface-level episode. This is about integration - learning to recognize, resource, and regulate yourself in real-time so you stop spinning in mental loops and start embodying a new way of being. Listen in as Gervase shares how to move from an activated state into a place of true self-knowing and safety, so that the next time a trigger hits, youâll know exactly how to navigate it.
If you're tired of being hijacked by your triggers and ready to move through them with ease, grace, and actual solutions, hit play now. And if youâre feeling called to go deeper, Gervaseâs Inner Knowing Mastermind is now open! Check out the link below for more info.
Have you ever felt like something in your life, career, or relationships isnât working, and instead of questioning the system, you immediately assume you must be the problem? That thereâs something wrong with you, that youâre not trying hard enough, that if you were just different, everything would fall into place?
This episode of The Modern Phoenix is a wake-up call. Gervase shares a raw and powerful riff from the vault - straight from a live coaching session. She dives into the deep-rooted conditioning that convinces women to gaslight themselves, unpacks how the systems we exist in, like patriarchy, capitalism, and generational conditioning, keep us in a cycle of self-doubt and self-abandonment. Most importantly, she offers a different perspective: what if your emotions, your overwhelm, your desire for change arenât personal failures, but signals that the ecosystem around you needs to shift? If youâre ready to reframe your inner dialogue, reclaim your discernment, and trust yourself enough to create the ripple effect that leads to real, systemic change, listen in now.
How often do you hold back, soften your words, or twist yourself into knots just to make sure no one gets upset? Whether itâs navigating a tough conversation with your partner, setting boundaries with your kids, or simply taking time for yourself without guilt, many of us have been conditioned to prioritize other peopleâs comfort over our own truth. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase is sharing a behind-the-scenes look at a live coaching call from The Phoenix Revolution, where she explored the deeply ingrained belief that your peace depends on everyone else being okay.
If youâve ever found yourself walking on eggshells, silencing your needs, or measuring success by how well you "land the plane" in a tough conversation, this episode is for you. Youâll hear real coaching, real breakthroughs, and a powerful shift in how we approach boundaries, self-trust, and standing in our truth, even when itâs uncomfortable.