I have to say the right thing or they’ll be mad
In this episode, Gervase shines a light on the pervasive belief: “I have to say or do the right thing, or they’ll be mad.” Gervase explores how this belief can not only trap you in cycles of self-doubt, stress, and rumination but also leads to self-abandonment. Join her as she shares insights into how the mind can mask trauma with obsession, frustration, and the relentless need to “get it right.” Keep listening to hear how you find the unique somatic soul strategy you need to bring yourself out of overwhelming obsession and into clarity, self-honoring, and groundedness.
It’s not okay for me to make mistakes
This week, Gervase takes on a limiting belief that surfaces in the lives of many modern women: it’s not okay to be wrong. Learn why this belief leads to fear, power struggles and a lack of authenticity in your life. You’ll discover why ruminating and gaslighting are trauma-based activation responses, and how leaning into body wisdom and the practice of resourcing can give you exactly what you need - the permission to be human, which will power a sense of ease, flow and creativity in your life.
Meet The Modern Phoenix
Welcome to the Modern Phoenix Podcast! Born from the ashes of the “It’s All Me” podcast, The Modern Phoenix is here to guide, inspire, and empower you to rise into the truest, most powerful version of yourself. In this episode, Gervase shares the heart behind the podcast rebrand, what it means to be a “modern woman,” and how the Phoenix archetype offers a powerful guide for personal evolution.
Keep listening to hear how knowing and choosing yourself despite our social conditioning, trusting your inner wisdom, and making bold choices are key to becoming who you were meant to be.
Why Permission is Where Healing Begins
On this week’s solo episode of the IAM podcast, Gervases seizes inspiration from a recent client interaction, discussing how patterns of disempowerment have left many women with the sneaky survival strategy of hyper-vigilance around the needs of others, and how permission, resource, and pleasure can allow us to bring more regulated versions of ourselves forward to meet life’s initiations. Listen in for questions that will help you begin to uncover what gives you life, what’s blocking you from your pleasure, and how you can accept permission to wake up and reclaim who you are instead of who you think everyone needs you to be.
It’s Not Okay, And I’m Okay
In this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase walks us through her lived experience of resourcing and holding space for the duality of being okay in the midst of chaos or stress without shame or blame. Listen in as she talks about acknowledging the range of your experience by feeling your feelings fully without judgment, why you don’t need to skip to the silver lining, and how to notice when you are gaslighting yourself. Keep listening to hear how to create safety within yourself, to resource and heal in community without putting the obligation on someone else, and how her trauma-informed practice of focalizing helps her and her clients heal themselves, their lineages, and honor all felt emotions - even when life is not okay.
Self Regulation Is My Family's Way Of Life. Here's Why
On this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase discusses how she reverse-engineered bad parenting advice and used it as inspiration for her family’s practice of self-regulation. Listen in as she shares how we can navigate the challenges and lies that we’ve been sold by modern Mother Culture, why it’s vital that you honor your own nervous system, and some tangible, practical ways she resources herself all day long (and how you can too!). If you’re ready to step out of reactionary, fight or flight parenting and start feeling resourced when the waves of life try to drag you under, to be the rock that your child can coregulate to, listen to this episode now.
How to Ask For What You Want (at Work) Pt 1
In a masterclass-style solo episode this week, Gervase dives into how to ask for what you want at your place of work. Listen in as she discusses the three main beliefs of a high-performing woman who isn’t getting what she wants, the role of our sympathetic nervous system, the impact of the company you keep, what could be keeping you in a martyr mindset, and how to decipher if these beliefs are stemming from the culture of a toxic workplace or your own belief system. Keep listening for the action steps you can take to make the shift and start getting or creating what you want at work.
Catch part 2 in two weeks: How to get what you want at home
Instead of Being Selfless, Be Your Fullest Self
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we’ve been fed that have led us into martyrdom, victimhood, and insecurity. Listen in as she sifts through where the feelings of guilt, shame, and the “I don’t get to have that” mentality come from, the work she and her clients are doing to hold the internal line of authenticity, and how believing in yourself doesn’t take away from anyone, but actually gives so much more to your relationships. Keep listening to hear how you get to be the one to reject the lies you’ve been sold, rework your beliefs, show up as the boldest version of yourself. and how you can be supported through the process.
The Magic of the Spring Equinox: Aligning Your Body With the Changing of Seasons
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase drops in with her thoughts on the transformative opportunity that lies within the Spring Equinox and the practice of aligning your life and body with nature, as she shares her personal experience of tuning into nature and the changes it made in her life. Listen in as she breaks down why the metaphor of nature is relevant to our lives, how seeing your life as parallel with nature can strengthen your mindset and your resilience to live through the hard experiences (or seasons) in your life, and why Spring’s New Year may be her favorite day of the year.
Supporting Yourself Through the World's Pain
Sharing an anonymous client story, Gervase discusses how her client was able to move from a place of overwhelming emotions from secondary grief and feeling deep disappointment in her partner, to a place of healing. Listen in as Gervase talks about why one of the most important things we can do in these moments is to tend to our system first, asking how we can be there for ourselves. Keep listening to hear how applying the It’s All Me Framework helped her client onto a path of healing and into a softer space where she was able to meet her partner in an honest, authentic conversation that allowed them to move forward together.
Teaching My Daughters Embodiment {Personal Story}
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase drops in with a personal, real-life example of what embodiment means and how she is teaching it to her children. Listen in as she shares how she turned the boring, dreaded milestone of swallowing pills into a fun practice of embodiment for her daughters and how life can change if we can learn to anchor into safety, community, love, and self-trust instead of into experiences of fear and shame.
Client Story - Loving Your Polarizing Traits with Sophia Prater
Gervase invites friend and client Sophia Prater on the podcast this week to discuss Sophia’s journey from an overwhelmed, ambitious entrepreneur trying to be palatable for everyone to a woman who embraces and feels safe to to be her full self. Join the conversation as they share their personal experiences with redefining hyper-independence, how Sophia practices playing within the range of her polarizing traits instead of labeling them ‘wrong’ or ‘right,’ and how the work they’ve done together inside of the Higher Mastermind is really every woman’s work.
Sophia is an entrepreneur, business owner, career coach, and public speaker in the world of User Experience (UX) design, making technology a little more humane for the rest of the world. Sophia has brought her framework to companies such as Facebook, Google, Uber, HelloFresh, Delta Airlines, Microsoft, Adobe and many more.
Expand Your Tolerance for Uncertainty
Dropping in this week with a solo episode, Gervase shares the impact of embracing life’s uncertainty without shaming the choices or plans you’ve made based on previous conditioning. Listen in to hear how shaming can block you from accessing your feminine energy, as well as how bringing compassion and curiosity into the mix can release you from conditioning, into the practice of bringing your whole humanity online. Keep listening for an invitation to Gervase’s newest FREE masterclass, Just Right, an opportunity to find your somatic sweet spot and make choices that serve your growth.
Are you Designing Your Life from the Inside Out?
In a world where we’ve been brainwashed to believe that the next beauty product, job, or partner will make us the person we long to be, Gervase reminds us of the power of choosing from the inside-out.
Listen to this week’s episode as she lays out how to begin living life from the inside out, the consequences of bypassing the dark feminine, tips for women who struggle with connection and depth in relationships, and why blaming how we feel on the inside on external things is a lie turned self-fulfilling prophecy. (Oh, and the weird sh*t coming up for her about turning 40.)
Keep listening for an invitation to take a small step toward living your life from the inside out.
Every Part of You Gets to Be Here with Jenna Donohue
We’re talking to Jenna Donohue, ex-corporate ladder climber and current Inner Guidance podcast host. Listen in as Jenna and G share their experiences with parts and shadow work, inner child healing, the masculine and feminine sides of safety, and their journeys with depression and antidepressants. Keep listening to hear how to start building your own tool set to resource yourself in your moments of darkness.
Jenna is a coach, consultant, and guide, with a background in sales, leadership and culture in the corporate world. Jenna works with individuals called to deepen their purpose and inner work, and companies looking to transform their culture to align with more purpose and connection.
What is the Point of Healing?
What is the point of healing? On this solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase reflects on the highs and lows of her healing journey through 2023. Listen in as she shares the experiences that prepared her for her own life initiations, get an inside look at the questions and transformations taking place in her coaching communities, and hear why - even though we’ve been brainwashed to bypass our feelings - the best way out is through.
Keep listening for a quick journaling exercise designed to help you start 2024 off on a soul-attuned healing path.
If You Feel Like Something’s Missing . . .
On this solo of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase dives into a new way of womaning. Join the convo as she expands on how her clients are experiencing healing after the burn of life’s initiations and the journey of coming home to self, all through the lens of a new, embodied womanhood that gives them space to ask the questions that ultimately change the trajectory of their lives.
The Politicalization of the Public School System with Joy Brown
Are political agendas getting in the way of your child’s education? Join Gervase and her guest Joy Brown on this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast, as they dive into the recent events causing chaos in the Charleston County School District and other districts across the U.S. Listen in as they discuss the imbalance that brought Joy into the slippery slope of school politics, why the PTA is much more than women baking brownies, and how the politicalization of the public school system is impacting our children.
Joy Brown is a Charleston native and mom who has lived in West Ashley nearly her entire life. A dedicated advocate and supporter of public schools, Joy currently sits on the board of the Charleston Area LWV and serves West Ashley as a District 10 Constituent School Board member.
Coming Home to Peace and Self
On this solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase channels a message on the practice of coming home to self. Listen in as she discusses the necessity of light and dark seasons, flexing our intuition muscle, and making choices that bring us closer to peace and self based on what we are holding in our current season of life. Keep listening to hear how sober curiosity is playing a part in her personal journey of coming home to self in her current season of motherhood.
Reinventing Your Life After Waking Up to the World’s BS with Erin Keating
Everything is bullsh*t. On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase invites Erin Keating, an award-winning television development and production executive turned podcast host, to discuss how life’s initiations can free us to create the lives we were made to lead. Listen in as they discuss how Erin’s Covid experience became the catalyst to reinvent her life, weed out the BS rules and relationships, and prioritize her voice and sensuality and become the entrepreneur she is today.
Erin Keating is the host of the Hotter Than Ever podcast, interviewing inspiring women over 40 about how they broke the unconscious rules they'd been following and reshaped the second act of their lives.