The Discomfort of Deconditioning from Mother Culture

Motherhood
Written By Gervase Kolmos

Unpopular opinion alert: You can have boundaries with your kids. On today’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares how this mind-blowing revelation is in fact a critical piece in the societal deconditioning of mothers. You don’t have to sacrifice every last shred of yourself to keep it all running. Listen in for a glimpse into how to change this pervasive narrative of martyrdom and self-abandonment.

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