I Can't Like Myself If I'm Who You Want Me To Be
Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you’re liked? Or so you don’t make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week’s episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to “perform” and prioritize being liked over being authentic. You’ll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself.
Watch This Episode To Discover:
Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)
What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system
The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that you’re losing)
Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you
How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency
A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery
The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else
Want Gervase’s personal guidance?
If you’d like to become who you’re really meant to be (instead of who they told you to be), you’re invited to join Gervase’s upcoming Inner Knowing Mastermind. During these 8 group calls, you’ll get an embodied sense of who you are, what’s right for you, and how to choose it.
But hurry: the first call starts April 30th - and to keep them intimate, there’s only a limited number of seats left!
Visit GervaseKolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind to reserve yours now.
What is Inner Knowing, And Why Will It Change Your Life
The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn’t you… but the unrealistic expectations you’ve internalized?
In this week’s episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment.
She’ll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What Inner Knowing is and why it’s so important for modern women
How to start listening to the body and soul’s signals for easier, more aligned decision making
How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence
Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life
The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right
Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we “should” be, how we are “supposed” to act and who they told us we are.
If you’d like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind.
This powerful 8-week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.
Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and “pushing through” of modern life.
It’s time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.
Go here to enroll and get more details: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind
You Can’t “Out-think” Your Triggered Body
Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mind race, or feel paralyzed by indecision. You know you’re triggered, but you’re not so sure what to do next.
In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase dives into what it actually takes to move through a trigger, not just from a logical, intellectual place, but through a somatic and soul strategy that allows you to shift your nervous system and return to a state of clarity, empowerment, and ease. This is not your basic “identifying triggers” surface-level episode. This is about integration - learning to recognize, resource, and regulate yourself in real-time so you stop spinning in mental loops and start embodying a new way of being. Listen in as Gervase shares how to move from an activated state into a place of true self-knowing and safety, so that the next time a trigger hits, you’ll know exactly how to navigate it.
If you're tired of being hijacked by your triggers and ready to move through them with ease, grace, and actual solutions, hit play now. And if you’re feeling called to go deeper, Gervase’s Inner Knowing Mastermind is now open! Check out the link below for more info.