Partnerships the Phoenix Way: How to Cultivate Compassion, Agency, and Pleasure

Mental Health
Written By Ember29 (Sophie)

On this solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares her personal insights on partnership, co-creating safety and trust within your relationship to ask for what you need, and the importance of resourcing and living a life you love as individuals as well as a couple. She shares her personal journey of navigating a 14-year marriage through smooth sailing and rough waters, how she and her husband practice recognizing and letting go of victim-mentality behavior and taking radical self-responsibility, and how these practices cultivate more passion and pleasure in their relationship. If you’re feeling like you need support in your own relationship journey, keep listening for an invitation to walk the Phoenix path with Gervase, creating resources and safety within your own nervous system and within your relationships.

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