The Fiction of "Doing It All" vs. Having It All

Mindset
Written By Ember29 (Sophie)

Erin is a mom of 3 who’s lived 9 lives, She’s been a full-time SAHM, a full-time working mom, a part-time working mom, and an entrepreneur. She worked for other people for 5 years before she took a leap of faith in her own vision to create her company, Totum.

 Totum means whole in Latine - they are devoted to helping modern mothers feel whole in motherhood - body, mind, relationships to ambition, my relationships themselves.

 In this episode

  • How to discern between striving and trusting

  • We talk about the show Mrs. America and how the women’s movement really hasn’t gotten very far - the next frontier of feminism will happen within the corporate structure

  • feeling like an imposter when younger women tell you your an inspiration

  • Erin’s unstructured structure as a mom of 3 and entrepreneur in 2020

  • The mental load of women in 2020 and how each of us quickly and easily gets unblocked in life and businesses

  • Erin’s next-level definition of how to feel WHOLE i.e. “Totum” as a working mom 

  • Both of our strong arguments for trading productivity for feeling WHOLE

  • Doing it all vs having it all / giving ourselves permission to stop

  • The “myths” Erin holds inside about what it means to do it all vs have it all

  • Echoing Eve Rodsky, “Time is time; time is not money”

  • Mom guilt, the endless responsibilities we put on OURSELVES as mothers and the mindfuckery of it all

  • G talks about how she’s okay going first in airing her dirty laundry to create vulnerability, community and permission to have it all, but not have it all together.

  • Erin’s final piece of advice is vital for any preggos who are ABOUT to push out a baby

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