WTF is Up With Over-Giving to Our Kids
In this third episode of the newest, uncut series of the podcast, G is coming to you from wherever the F she finds herself to share an aspect of mother-ing that has her saying, “What in the actual . . .?!” Because it’s always nice to feel less alone in the clusterfuck that is life. Gervase is dropping in from the parking lot of a hair salon to share ways to navigate the hard, the human, and the straight up WTFs of over-giving to our children.
Here’s a WTF gem, straight from G herself:
My goal as a mom is to really equip my children with the emotional resilience and tenacity to understand that their feelings are great, that they should feel them all, let it out. I want them to know I'm holding space for them, and also that they don’t get to blame those feelings on me. They don’t get to take and take and take from me until I have nothing left. That is not the model I want to give to my children.
We as mothers need to hear that just because we know how to nurture does not mean that we have to be a punching bag. It takes work and it takes time, but once we’re able to understand our tendency to over-give, to really look at the reasons why we’re over-extending ourselves, that’s when we’re able to operate with a sovereign boundary: a boundary that allows us to continue to give from a place of love rather than resentment, taking care of our loved ones while also loving ourselves.