Self Regulation Is My Family's Way Of Life. Here's Why
On this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase discusses how she reverse-engineered bad parenting advice and used it as inspiration for her family’s practice of self-regulation. Listen in as she shares how we can navigate the challenges and lies that we’ve been sold by modern Mother Culture, why it’s vital that you honor your own nervous system, and some tangible, practical ways she resources herself all day long (and how you can too!). If you’re ready to step out of reactionary, fight or flight parenting and start feeling resourced when the waves of life try to drag you under, to be the rock that your child can coregulate to, listen to this episode now.
How to Ask For What You Want (at Home) Pt 2
In this second half of a two-part series, Gervase shines a light on how to get what you want at home. Using two highly common archetypes of women who aren’t currently getting their wants or needs met in the home, Gervase shares why this isn’t “just the way it is” and how you can take back your agency and embrace your power to evolve your life into a reflection of who you are on the inside. Listen in for the sneaky beliefs that are keeping you small, how accepting a life of not getting what you want can manifest into other symptoms in your life, why being needless and wantless is actually hurting your family, and so many more valuable insights (Seriously grab a pen). Keep listening for real-time practices of having grace for your current self and the shifts you can make to start getting what you want out of your home life.
Understanding Childhood Trauma that Doesn’t Feel Like Trauma with Chelsea Green (Replay)
In this replay from 2021, Gervase is getting publicly therapized with soulmate and licensed professional counselor Chelsea Green. Chelsea speaks such wisdom about how the systems that we are surrounded by as children, translate into our adult life. The conversation is sprinkled with mic drop moment after mic drop moment from the choices that we face everyday to how we can calibrate our roles in the patriarchal society.
Chelsea is a Licensed Professional Counselor providing integrative mental health therapy in Charleston, SC. Her therapy practice specializes in working with adults, couples, and families in the midst of life transitions, relationship stress, trauma recovery, family systems, anxiety, depression, and stress. She is also a family constellation group facilitator and a visual artist who merges her many talents to curate transformative experiences.
How to Ask For What You Want (at Work) Pt 1
In a masterclass-style solo episode this week, Gervase dives into how to ask for what you want at your place of work. Listen in as she discusses the three main beliefs of a high-performing woman who isn’t getting what she wants, the role of our sympathetic nervous system, the impact of the company you keep, what could be keeping you in a martyr mindset, and how to decipher if these beliefs are stemming from the culture of a toxic workplace or your own belief system. Keep listening for the action steps you can take to make the shift and start getting or creating what you want at work.
Catch part 2 in two weeks: How to get what you want at home
Instead of Being Selfless, Be Your Fullest Self
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we’ve been fed that have led us into martyrdom, victimhood, and insecurity. Listen in as she sifts through where the feelings of guilt, shame, and the “I don’t get to have that” mentality come from, the work she and her clients are doing to hold the internal line of authenticity, and how believing in yourself doesn’t take away from anyone, but actually gives so much more to your relationships. Keep listening to hear how you get to be the one to reject the lies you’ve been sold, rework your beliefs, show up as the boldest version of yourself. and how you can be supported through the process.
The Magic of the Spring Equinox: Aligning Your Body With the Changing of Seasons
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase drops in with her thoughts on the transformative opportunity that lies within the Spring Equinox and the practice of aligning your life and body with nature, as she shares her personal experience of tuning into nature and the changes it made in her life. Listen in as she breaks down why the metaphor of nature is relevant to our lives, how seeing your life as parallel with nature can strengthen your mindset and your resilience to live through the hard experiences (or seasons) in your life, and why Spring’s New Year may be her favorite day of the year.
EASTER BONUS: Remembering the Sacred Feminine with Priestess Sarah Jenks (Replay)
In this bonus replay from 2022, G brings one of her teachers to the pod—a fellow mom of 3 who also happens to be a Priestess, Sarah Jenks. In this conversation, G excitedly quizzes Sarah on the definitions of and historical context of layer upon layer of the internalized patriarchy of the modern woman. If you’ve wanted a deeper understanding of the Sacred Feminine, the patriarchy, the stories of Mary Magdalene or what it means to be in “ceremony,” this episode will go beyond informative and activate resonance. Listen in to learn what happens when women remember the untold stories of the empowered, magical and wealthy female archetypes that lived during Jesus’ time and re-integrate their souls as modern day holy women.
Why My Trip to PR Was Good For My Kids (And Awesome for Me)
Back from her trip to Puerto Rico, Gervase shares the impact of our cultural conditioning around motherhood, the stories its led us to tell ourselves, and why leaving martyrdom motherhood in the past will help you not only keep your sanity but leave a legacy for your children that you’ll be proud of. Join the discussion as she dives deeper than the “take care of yourself” platitudes, addressing the symptoms of internalized patriarchy, why there’s no shame in taking a break, and how accepting our multi-dimensionality as women and mothers can leave a lasting imprint on our children.
Client Story - Landing in Wonder by Walking Through Fear
Peek behind the curtain into Gervase’s private coaching spaces this week as Gervase shares an anonymous client story about a woman learning to integrate her body wisdom while simultaneously unlearning default patterns in her nervous system. Listen in as Gervase somatically guides her client into a space where she feels resourced and safe enough to not only acknowledge her negative emotions but to allow herself to feel them without shame or judgement. Keep listening to hear how this opens the door to creation of new neural pathways that build trust between herself and her body.
Supporting Yourself Through the World's Pain
Sharing an anonymous client story, Gervase discusses how her client was able to move from a place of overwhelming emotions from secondary grief and feeling deep disappointment in her partner, to a place of healing. Listen in as Gervase talks about why one of the most important things we can do in these moments is to tend to our system first, asking how we can be there for ourselves. Keep listening to hear how applying the It’s All Me Framework helped her client onto a path of healing and into a softer space where she was able to meet her partner in an honest, authentic conversation that allowed them to move forward together.
Teaching My Daughters Embodiment {Personal Story}
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase drops in with a personal, real-life example of what embodiment means and how she is teaching it to her children. Listen in as she shares how she turned the boring, dreaded milestone of swallowing pills into a fun practice of embodiment for her daughters and how life can change if we can learn to anchor into safety, community, love, and self-trust instead of into experiences of fear and shame.
Client Story - Loving Your Polarizing Traits with Sophia Prater
Gervase invites friend and client Sophia Prater on the podcast this week to discuss Sophia’s journey from an overwhelmed, ambitious entrepreneur trying to be palatable for everyone to a woman who embraces and feels safe to to be her full self. Join the conversation as they share their personal experiences with redefining hyper-independence, how Sophia practices playing within the range of her polarizing traits instead of labeling them ‘wrong’ or ‘right,’ and how the work they’ve done together inside of the Higher Mastermind is really every woman’s work.
Sophia is an entrepreneur, business owner, career coach, and public speaker in the world of User Experience (UX) design, making technology a little more humane for the rest of the world. Sophia has brought her framework to companies such as Facebook, Google, Uber, HelloFresh, Delta Airlines, Microsoft, Adobe and many more.
Expand Your Tolerance for Uncertainty
Dropping in this week with a solo episode, Gervase shares the impact of embracing life’s uncertainty without shaming the choices or plans you’ve made based on previous conditioning. Listen in to hear how shaming can block you from accessing your feminine energy, as well as how bringing compassion and curiosity into the mix can release you from conditioning, into the practice of bringing your whole humanity online. Keep listening for an invitation to Gervase’s newest FREE masterclass, Just Right, an opportunity to find your somatic sweet spot and make choices that serve your growth.
Co-Creating Safety and Harmony in Partnership with Josh Trent
Join Gervase and her guest Josh Trent as they discuss the impact of spiritual growth, the balancing of masculine and feminine energies, and the power of commitment to co-regulation within our intimate partner relationships. Listen in for insights on how to create safety within relationships, the difference between real and pseudo safety, and for a rally cry to both men and women to address our wounds and continue forward with both respect and ownership with our partners.
Dedicated to supporting humanity in coming together as one, Josh has spent the past 19+ years as a trainer, researcher, and facilitator discovering the physical and emotional intelligence for humans to thrive in our modern world. He is the Founder of Wellness Force Media, which exists to help humans heal mental, emotional and physical health through podcasts, programs, and a global community that believes in optimizing our potential to live life well.
Goodbye, Hyper-Independence. Hello, Community
Gervase shares an inside look at how she creates space for dimension and transformation within her in-person retreats and walks us through the most recent retreat experience in Charleston. Keep listening for two examples of how she is creating intentional wellness in her life right now and the different ways you can heal and grow with a community of other women seeking depth in their lives and relationships.
Asking Hard Questions (Are NYC Schools Still Segregated?) with Brandon Triola
Brandon Triola is a teacher, actor and creator who loves to stir the pot in the schools where he’s taught. This episode, he and G navigate the inconvenient truths and conversations we’ve been conditioned to sidestep, like pseudo-liberalism, the real impact of institutionalized racism, and the white savior complex. Keep listening to hear Brandon’s story of being a Brooklyn school teacher and how Brooklyn Start is his hope to build up the communities of Brooklyn while shedding light on some dark truths.
Brandon Triola is a veteran actor, writer, and director of 20 years. A proud member of the Screen Actors Guild and the Actor's Equity Association, he is the creator of the TikTok short format show sensation, BrooklynStart "a show about a conversation that no one wants to have".
Are you Designing Your Life from the Inside Out?
In a world where we’ve been brainwashed to believe that the next beauty product, job, or partner will make us the person we long to be, Gervase reminds us of the power of choosing from the inside-out.
Listen to this week’s episode as she lays out how to begin living life from the inside out, the consequences of bypassing the dark feminine, tips for women who struggle with connection and depth in relationships, and why blaming how we feel on the inside on external things is a lie turned self-fulfilling prophecy. (Oh, and the weird sh*t coming up for her about turning 40.)
Keep listening for an invitation to take a small step toward living your life from the inside out.
Every Part of You Gets to Be Here with Jenna Donohue
We’re talking to Jenna Donohue, ex-corporate ladder climber and current Inner Guidance podcast host. Listen in as Jenna and G share their experiences with parts and shadow work, inner child healing, the masculine and feminine sides of safety, and their journeys with depression and antidepressants. Keep listening to hear how to start building your own tool set to resource yourself in your moments of darkness.
Jenna is a coach, consultant, and guide, with a background in sales, leadership and culture in the corporate world. Jenna works with individuals called to deepen their purpose and inner work, and companies looking to transform their culture to align with more purpose and connection.
What is the Point of Healing?
What is the point of healing? On this solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase reflects on the highs and lows of her healing journey through 2023. Listen in as she shares the experiences that prepared her for her own life initiations, get an inside look at the questions and transformations taking place in her coaching communities, and hear why - even though we’ve been brainwashed to bypass our feelings - the best way out is through.
Keep listening for a quick journaling exercise designed to help you start 2024 off on a soul-attuned healing path.
Addressing Trauma & Breaking Cycles with Angie Mizzell
On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase introduces Angie Mizzell, former television news anchor and recently published author of “Girl in the Spotlight”. Join Gervase and Angie as they discuss the inspirations and growth that led to the release of Angie’s memoir, how nurturing our inner child can help us move forward in life and parenthood, and the power of sharing your story. If you're a woman who wants to break generational cycles and stop the perpetuation of trauma, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.