Reimagining Boundaries Using the It’s All Me Mindset

Relationships
Written By Ember29 (Sophie)

‘Boundaries’ has become quite a buzzword over the past decade (for good reason!), but what do you really know about them? On this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase dives below the surface level of boundaries, covering what they can look like, how to set them from a place of love and deep discernment, and why they are the most loving action you can take in your relationships. Join G as she shares boundary examples around toxic friendships, sibling dynamics, and parental relationships.

This episode is for the woman who is ready to stop feeling like a victim, who is ready to claim her peace and protect herself and others in the most loving, proactive (read: not reactive!) way possible. You get to have friendships that are mutually satisfying, energetically healthy, and sustainable. You just have to take responsibility and claim it.

 In this episode

  • [01:53] The definition of victimhood and the impact of the It’s All Me framework

  • [06:18] Fostering mutually satisfying, energetically healthy friendships

  • [17:51] How to neutralize and deactivate your triggers before setting boundaries

  • [23:21] Her personal experience of stepping out of blame and guilt and setting boundaries with her mother

Resources and Links

  1. IG Live (Mother relationship)

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